Its been a rough few weeks for my family. First, my mom got an infection in a broken tooth she had been unable to get fixed for a while. It made, her terribly sick. Then, I got tonsillitis, and my mom and Elijah both caught what I had, and we were sick for weeks. Then my mom got her tooth pulled. Three days later, last Monday, was the final blow (knock on wood). While leaving work, my mom slipped on the ice and severely broke her ankle. I mean SEVERELY. Her foot was turned around backwards.
So now she’s basically bed bound. We had plans to go check out a traditional German Christmas festival down town (its somewhere on 16th Street mall, if you’re interested in going). We wanted to go to the Georgetown Christmas festival. We wanted to go to Zoo Lights at the Denver Zoo. We wanted to go to all the Advent services at church, and Sunday services, and Christmas Eve candle light services, and Christmas morning services. We wanted to do a lot of things, to appreciate the spirit of the season through activity more than gifts. But we can’t do any of those things now, because my mom can’t walk.
She has crutches, but its hard work doing those things on crutches, if not impossible. We might still do Zoo Lights next week, because the zoo has wheel chairs you can check out, and we’re still going to try and get to Christmas Eve and morning services at church, but beside that, all of our Christmas plans are dashed. To top things off, my mom had not done one bit of shopping for me and had only gotten one gift for Elijah (she wanted to do more), and now she is unable to do it. I understand why and don’t mind not getting gifts on Christmas morning, and Elijah won’t know the difference if he gets one gift from Grammy or a thousand, but my mom is pretty upset about it. She loves to give just as much as any mom or grandma, and this year she won’t be able to.
I have felt a great urge to make up for all of this, and have spent more than I wanted to on stocking stuffers for all of us and a “gift” for myself (a Deepak Chopra book), just so that we all have something on Christmas morning, and it will still feel like Christmas for my poor mom.
I am however pleased because I had decided my big gift for her would be the same thing I was doing for my sister, home made spa products. She knows I did that for my sister, and as I was showing her my sisters gifts, she said “I wish you had done that for me”. Ha ha ha ha ha! I did! So at least I know she will like her gift.
What’s bothering me most of all is how hard it is to take care of my mom, my son and the house. I just can’t seem to keep up! The house is a mess, and I’m going to be spending a lot of time over the next two days making sure that its at least clean for Christmas. When my mom scoots downstairs on her butt (because our stairs are too narrow to get down on crutches) on Christmas morning, I don’t want her to be distracted by a dirty house.
Tomorrow, I will post all about my successes and failures with my Christmas shopping goal to do everything off of Freecycle, Craigslist or homemade. I will make sure to include pictures. This is, in essence, the first Christmas I’ve put together entirely by myself, so I think a few failures are normal. I’m working out the kinks. Next year, my economical, green Christmas will go much more smoothly. I learned a lot of valuable lessons this year.