I’m pro choice, but I would like to see abortion end. I don’t know if it’s a life or not, in case it is, I would like to see abortion end. I also know abortion takes a huge toll emotionally, physically and financially on the women who undergo the procedure. No one should have to go through that, so I would like to see abortion end. I also hate pushy, crazy pro life protesters who carry pictures of dead babies and do things that border on terrorist action (and sometimes cross right over), so I would like to see abortion end.
The thing is, I also know that if abortion were made illegal, it would still go on. There would still be abortions, performed dangerously in back alleys, often killing or seriously injuring the desperate, scared women seeking them. There would still be abortions, quietly in rich women’s doctor’s offices in exchange for large sums of money and/or political favors. Outlawing abortion is a half assed attempt at treating a symptom. If we want to put an end to abortion, we must treat the disease.
#1. Teach family planning
There are many ways to avoid an unwanted pregnancy. One of these ways, yes, is abstinence. This is the most effective method, but it is the least used. It’s not because of lack of knowledge, everyone knows about being a virgin. We were all born virgins; most of us stay virgins for the majority of our childhood. Being a virgin is pretty easy. Other ways to prevent pregnancy include a vast variety of birth control methods and natural family planning methods. Everyone (men and women) should have knowledge of all of their options and be able to make informed, scientifically accurate decisions.
#2. Provide resources for single mothers
Unplanned pregnancies happen, even with birth control. I was on birth control when I got pregnant. Human error and malfunctions will never go away, nor will premarital sex. Women would be more inclined to keep their children if they had resources to fall back on to help them, because parenting alone is hard work.
#3. Make fathers take responsibility
I’m not telling anyone to get married, but it takes two to tango, and fathers need to be responsible for just as much as mothers are. Mother’s would need less support from outside sources (such as government aid programs) if they got more from the fathers of their children.
#5. Stop men from impregnating more women than they can care for
This is just an idea, and I know its out there, but I don’t think it would be a bad thing if after a man has, say, two children by two different women for whom he cannot provide, he should be sterilized. I am horrified at how often I hear about men who have five or six illegitimate children out there that he isn’t providing for. What the hell? I don’t think the threat of punishment is a deterrent; I just don’t want these dudes out there knocking up half their neighborhoods anymore. If they provide for these children, that’s a different story, but if they aren’t providing for their kids, they’re just placing a bigger burden upon social programs that end up picking up their slack.
#6. Open Adoption
Can you imagine carrying a baby to term and then just giving it away forever? It would be really hard. Open adoption is a program in which adoptive parents provide occasional updates on the child for the birth mother, so the birth mother can still feel some connection to the child. It is a gift for both the adoptive parents and the birth mother.
#7. Praise adoption
Women who give the gift of parenthood to a childless couple while at the same time placing a child who might otherwise be living in poverty into a good and stable home should be treated like heroes. Nothing less.
#8. Ban the stigma
If society were more understanding of women who get pregnant out of wedlock, it would be much easier for them to bring the pregnancy to term. Pro lifers have to decide right now what’s more important to them, saving a fetus from abortion or shaming a woman for making what they consider to be a bad choice. Abortion is a way of dealing with an unwanted pregnancy without experiencing shame. If shame were not an issue, women would very likely seek alternative means of dealing with an unwanted pregnancy, such as adoption. I mean, seriously, once the woman is pregnant, the mistake has already been made. Why rub her face in it? It’s not going to change anything. Instead, help her to correct the situation and find the best possible outcome for all parties involved, especially the child to be. Shame solves nothing, but love and assistance will help the woman to learn what she needs to from her experience and make different choices in the future. I think that’s what Jesus would do.
#9. Give children a chance for a future
I don’t understand how pro lifers can be so concerned about a child’s rights and feelings before it is born, but after birth don’t want to provide it with the least amount of aid. Children do not pick their parents, and no matter what you might feel about the mother, the child is innocent and incapable of taking care of itself. It’s a child, not a punishment to the mother. Children born to single mothers are often doomed to a life of poverty, which means bad schools and little chance for a college education. Children who grow up in these situations rarely climb their way out because they are not afforded with the same kind of opportunities the children of dual parent households have. Often they grow up to do the exact same things their parents did, because they never got an opportunity to do anything else. We need to give all children the same opportunity for greatness. The fact is that not all rich, dual parent household kids take what’s offered to them, and not all poor, single parent household children will either, but just as we still offer the same opportunities to all rich, dual parent household children, we should also offer those opportunities to all poor, single parent household children. Children should all start out on the same level playing field, what they choose to do from there is their choice.
As it stands right now, society gives women who experience unplanned pregnancies plenty of reasons to get an abortion, but gives them very little reason to bring their pregnancies to term. If we as a society really want to see abortions become a thing of the past, we need to first prevent the need for abortions from occurring, and then give women more reasons to bring a pregnancy to term than to terminate it.