I cosleep. That is to say, Elijah sleeps in bed with me. Many doctors say this increases the risk of SIDS, just as many say it decreases the risks, but most say its a sleeping option no better or worse than any other, provided proper safety precautions are taken (for example, never cosleep if anyone in the bed has been drinking). I find it much easier than putting Elijah in the crib, when he wakes up in the middle of the night, I just roll over and pop my boob in his mouth. Furthermore, he has never slept any other way (I’m starting to think the crib was a big waste of money, I’m just glad I got it used). I’m not going to say cosleeping is right for everyone, but its certainly right for me and my son.
When I was visiting my sister in Missouri after her baby was born, I found a book of mom tips her friends out there had put together for her. In it, several of her friends instructed her not to ever let her daughter sleep in bed with her because she would never stop sleeping in her bed if she starts.
Well I’ve got news for those people. Eventually all children are going to want to masturbate, and they won’t want to do it in bed with their parents. At that point (at the very latest) cosleeping will certainly end. But the fact of the matter is that children usually want to start sleeping in their own beds as toddlers, without any prodding from their parents.
So anyone who tells you that if you let your child sleep in your bed that they’ll never want to sleep on their own is an idiot. Cosleeping has many benefits, including (but not limited to)
- Greater ease for parents, because when the baby wakes up in the middle of the night, you don’t have to get out of bed to tend to your baby
- Helps baby develop feelings of security
- Promotes healthy attachment
- Increases milk production and supports healthy breastfeeding
- Allows parents to get more sleep
- Strengthens bonding
- Allows you to wake up to the sweetest image in the world every morning